Often, children wait eagerly for the holidays. But, as we grow up, we tend to dread the holidays, as it can be stressful, too. With good preparation ahead, It is a wonderful time for merry making and great family time. On the other hand, there’s a lot that happens during the holidays that can be stressful or trigger conflict, even among family members.
One of the biggest mistakes we make, during the holidays, says our experienced therapist at Power Counseling PLLC in Washington DC is that “we try to please everyone, except ourselves.” So, taking time to care for and nurture yourself is as important, this holiday season, as you care for family members and friends. Here are other tips to make your holiday season exceptional:
DEFINE HOLIDAYS for YOURSELF – We all grew up with a handed-down notion of what, exactly, the holidays are supposed to be. Often, we are expected to follow the traditional way of spending the holidays, with no one questions asked. This doesn’t, necessarily, have to be. You can bring in new traditions. Ask your children to share their views on holidays! How would they like to spend their holidays? Share your memories but create new ones by doing what makes everyone happy.
PLAN AHEAD – All good ideas succeed with proper planning. If you wait until the last minute, you may end up with avoidable mistakes. Set a time to explore your partner’s expectations, in relation to family expectations. Share with your spouse and other family members how you are willing to spend your time, ahead. Family dinners are especially important, during this holiday season.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF – For all the hard work you put in, so that your family has a meaningful holiday time together, make sure you also take a break and give time to yourself. Assign time for attending to your needs. From taking a longer bath to having a day with nothing to do, spend the holidays, as you like it. If you need to spend some time alone, sometimes, away from your family members, it’s okay.
VOLUNTEERING IS OKAY – You can make your holiday meaningful by volunteering for your favorite cause. You can give your time or things to others who are less fortunate. Spend time visiting elderly people, serve a hot lunch at Thanksgiving to children at the orphanage or donate goods to a family in need. Your children will benefit from learning that not everything that matters in life comes in pretty packages.
Our experienced family therapists at Power Counselling PLLC in Washington DC believe that using the tips above will provide you a great opportunity to strengthen your family ties and interactions. Use this season to help your family members feel connected, again. Family therapy can help you set up healthy patterns of interaction and communication that can last a lifetime. We, at Power Counseling, provide supportive counseling to help children and parents interact, communicate and grow together.
Let us know, in the Comments section below, how you are using these tips sheet with your family and any results that you get!