Make the Holidays Exceptional, use These Tips!

Often, children wait eagerly for the holidays. But, as we grow up, we tend to dread the holidays, as it can be stressful, too. With good preparation ahead, It is a wonderful time for merry making and great family time. On the other hand, there’s a lot that happens during the holidays that can be stressful or trigger conflict, even among family members.

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One of the biggest mistakes we make, during the holidays, says our experienced therapist at Power Counseling PLLC in Washington DC is that “we try to please everyone, except ourselves.” So, taking time to care for and nurture yourself is as important, this holiday season, as you care for family members and friends. Here are other tips to make your holiday season exceptional:

DEFINE HOLIDAYS for YOURSELF – We all grew up with a handed-down notion of what, exactly, the holidays are supposed to be. Often, we are expected to follow the traditional way of spending the holidays, with no one questions asked. This doesn’t, necessarily, have to be. You can bring in new traditions. Ask your children to share their views on holidays! How would they like to spend their holidays? Share your memories but create new ones by doing what makes everyone happy.

PLAN AHEAD – All good ideas succeed with proper planning. If you wait until the last minute, you may end up with avoidable mistakes. Set a time to explore your partner’s expectations, in relation to family expectations. Share with your spouse and other family members how you are willing to spend your time, ahead. Family dinners are especially important, during this holiday season.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF – For all the hard work you put in, so that your family has a meaningful holiday time together, make sure you also take a break and give time to yourself. Assign time for attending to your needs. From taking a longer bath to having a day with nothing to do, spend the holidays, as you like it. If you need to spend some time alone, sometimes, away from your family members, it’s okay.

VOLUNTEERING IS OKAY – You can make your holiday meaningful by volunteering for your favorite cause. You can give your time or things to others who are less fortunate. Spend time visiting elderly people, serve a hot lunch at Thanksgiving to children at the orphanage or donate goods to a family in need. Your children will benefit from learning that not everything that matters in life comes in pretty packages.

Our experienced family therapists at Power Counselling PLLC in Washington DC believe that using the tips above will provide you a great opportunity to strengthen your family ties and interactions. Use this season to help your family members feel connected, again. Family therapy can help you set up healthy patterns of interaction and communication that can last a lifetime. We, at Power Counseling, provide supportive counseling to help children and parents interact, communicate and grow together.

Let us know, in the Comments section below, how you are using these tips sheet with your family and any results that you get!

Family Therapist in Washington DC Helps Parents Focus on Child’s Temperament

The unique individual characteristics of each child define the way in which he/she approaches the world. This is what temperament is about. The Power Counseling PLLC Family Therapist in Washington DC can help you understand your child’s temperament and use that knowledge to be the best parent for your child. Seeking professional family counseling from an experienced therapist can help you anticipate your child’s responses to certain situations, because you understand their temperament.

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Generally, activity level, emotional intensity, frustration tolerance, reaction to new people and change are the five traits that describe an individual’s temperament. Temperament is not something that is being created. Instead it’s what your child has. A child’s temperament shapes the way he/she experiences the world. For instance, if students are invited to attend a classmate’s birthday party, a child who is cautious and needs time to feel comfortable in new situations may choose not to attend. On the other hand, the child who is more outgoing may be the first one to drop-in for the party.

CHILDREN CAN ADAPT

The way a child behaves and approaches the world is shaped by his/her experiences and the way they interact with their parents. For instance, children who are temperamentally shy can suddenly become more outgoing and comfortable in new situations or settings. If you are a parent, expect that, sometimes your child can act or react in a way that you may not expect. The fact that your child can surprise you is one of the most exciting and even delightful rewards of parenthood.

THERE IS NO WRONG, RIGHT, BETTER OR WORSE TEMPERAMENT

It’s very important to accept your children for who they are, although there are temperaments, which are much easier to handle. Ask a parent whose child has a reactive, intense behavior; one whose child is very shy and the one whose child is slow in mixing with others. They will tell you that parenting these children present different challenges. But each will accept what they have and work with each child to change what needs to change. Your child’s behavior may remind you of your own areas of weakness that you need to work on and change, such as being easily hurt by someone’s unkindness. Sometimes, you may feel discomfort with the ways in which your child is very different from you. All of that is normal.

BE YOUR CHILD’S CHAMPION

Have you ever felt yourself isolated from, being misunderstood or even put down by family, friends, and neighbors who judge your child or your parenting skills? Do not feel disheartened. Instead, use these situations as opportunities to educate others about your child or to learn more about what to do to help your child change about themselves or their behaviors. You can also help others see your child’s behavior from a different perspective.

The goal of the family therapist at Power Counseling PLLC in Washington DC isn’t necessarily to change your child’s temperament, but to help them make their temperament work for them. The therapist shows them their strengths and work with them on the areas where they may need more support to improve. The family therapist helps your child adapt and expand his/her world, and to feel more confident about their place in it.